Over the years I have learned that people are always going to disappoint us and let us down because none of us are perfect and we all make mistakes. It is how we react to hurtful situations that define us. It’s ok to feel angry, sad and upset; this is how we process emotions. It’s ok to go into our bedrooms, sob into our pillows and work through our feelings to try and make sense of them, because this is how we come to terms with the pain. However, we can’t move on from the hurtful situation if we get stuck in it, obsessed with it and talk about it incessantly to others because this just fuels the burn. Let’s learn to get it out of our systems and then leave it behind.
Forgive. We may always remember what someone did to hurt us but the anger will eventually fade. Actions that cause an immense amount of pain may impact us for the rest of our lives and we may never feel the way we did about that person again and that is extremely disappointing. It is quite difficult to wrap our minds around the damaging situation, but unfortunately no matter how hard you try, you will never understand why people act the way they do. The lesson here is don’t spend too much time overanalyzing and feeling sorry for being a victim of someone else’s issues. You cannot change what happened, all you can do is cope with it and forgive because we are all humans and we all make mistakes and well because if you don’t you will wear it like an ugly sweater and everyone will notice!!
We all must live with the aftermath of poor behaviors and bad decisions. If we have the ability to learn, grow and release the anger that we have been burdened with, then ultimately we will be better for it. Carrying around the excess baggage of anger is cumbersome, it weighs on our souls, diminishes our spirit and the only person that it hurts in the end is the one hauling the load. No matter how much pain it causes, no matter how unfair it was, if you don’t come to terms with it, it will become you. You may not have had a choice in the hand you were dealt but you do have a choice to which degree you will let it affect you. So, process it, accept it for what it is, release the negative energy and make room for better things to come your way. You will be thankful that you did!
How to Let go of Hurt / November 12, 2016 / © Jill E. Gallien